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Clothes don’t have a gender, and whether you are male, female, enby, non-binary, gender neutral, gender fluid or have any other gender identity you should be able to feel like you can wear whatever you like on your wedding day .
This is especially true when you are eloping. You’ll have already picked an lgbtqia+ friendly destination that supports marriage equality, and without having to think about what your guests will say you are free to pick whatever makes you feel the best.
Whether that’s both rocking dresses, or saying “I do” in identical suits. By eloping you are doing the wedding your way, and what you wear is another great way to make it that little bit more personal.
Although clothes can be worn by any one, we live in a society where some clothes feel more gendered than others. In this blog I’ll be sharing some suggestions of where you can find:
- Androgynous suits
- Alternative gender neutral wedding outfits
- And little details that you can add to your outfit to complete the look.
Tips for finding the right outfit for your elopement
Gender neutral can go as glam or as simple as you want but there are a few things to remember when you are picking your outfits, especially if you are planning on wearing them in the mountains.
- If you are planning to hike in more technical gear and then get changed it’s important to think about how easy it will be to get ready once you are out on the trail.
- Think about the activities you want to do and how practical it will be, if you are hoping to get out skiing or snowboarding in your wedding gear then make sure it is practical to move in, that it will keep you warm enough, and that there isn’t anything that could get caught in your equipment.
- Can you carry it? This is particularly important for multi-day eleopments where you might want to bring your wedding outfits with you and take them on and off several times. Making sure they are light enough to carry, and pack down easily will make a huge difference.
- Remember that if you are hitting the trails together you’ll want to have suitable footwear, something that’s waterproof, sturdy and comfortable. It’s best to wear something you’ve already used a few times and worn in.
- Be prepared for all weather. Especially if you are heading out into the mountains to celebrate your day. You might need hats and sunglasses, or extra layers and waterproofs. The weather can be really changeable and making sure you have enough gear with you is essential.
There are so many incredible designers out there stepping outside of gender binaries in their clothing ranges. What I love about these next designers is that their designs are completely non-gendered. Giving you the freedom to pick whatever items work for you.
Started out of a frustration with outdated gender norms in the fashion industry Wildfang create looks that are fresh and unique. Making outfits that are practical – read pockets that you can actually put things in – as well as designed to make you look and feel incredible.
Price Range: $300-$400 – Shop Now
Kirrin Finch describe them selves as challenging Industry norms on what is considered menswear & womenswear, and aim instead to create well-fitting outfits to make you feel comfortable and confident. They’ve got an entire range of formal wear that would be perfect for any elopement wedding, as well as for wedding guests.
Price Range: $500-$750 – Shop Now
Peau De Loup
This Canadian based brand prides themselves on making clothes that fit bodies – not genders. specialising in designing outfits that are based on traditional men’s wear lines and tailoring them to female and non-binary bodies. The have a great range of blazers and waistcoats that you can put together to get the exact look and feel that works for you.
Price Range: $250 for a blazer and waistcoat – Shop Now
If you want to celebrate your wedding wearing something that looks amazing, makes you feel incredible and fits perfectly to you then you might want to consider getting a custom suit made for the day. It gives you a choice of materials, colours, shapes, and you get to give your measurements and preferences so that you can know you’ll be wearing something that fits exactly how you like it. Both Bindle and Keep based in Brooklyn and The Tailory in New York now offer virtual as well as in person appointments and are a great option for people looking for androgynous suits.
Bindle and Keep Price Range: $995 – $1395 – Shop Now
Other larger retailers have also started to realise that people of all genders are buying their clothing, although it’s often still quite limited many are developing unisex ranges. Asos have developed a small unisex range including this white suit.
Asos Collusion Blazer and Trousers: $100 – Currently on sale for $45 – Shop Now
Suits from Men’s and Women’s ranges
Although some retailers are stepping outside of the binary many still only have men’s and women’s sections. If this is something that doesn’t bother you and you are happy to shop in either section then there are some great options available on:
A great option if you are looking for a truly unique look. Etsy have a range of different designers and suits perfect for weddings and special occasions. You are able to use gender neutral search terms however, clothing is still categorized into men’s and women’s ranges and many of the outfit’s will include gender in their title.
This UK based Etsy seller has a wide range of different suits in a variety of different colors and styles. Perfect for couples looking to step away from traditional suit designs and embrace bright colors and patterns on their wedding day.
Price Range: $250-$400 – Shop Now
VIOSSI offer a range of suits based on a typically masculine fit with elegance, classic fashion and stylish tailoring at their core. They have some great options for more traditional 3 piece suits perfect for couples looking for a more formal wedding look.
Price Range: $300 – Shop Now
If you are looking for a more modern cut then Far Fetch have a range of different blazers, trousers and skirts available. They do offer traditional materials and colours, but expect to find more standout pieces here, with velvets, patchwork and even a metallic blazer. If you are wanting a white themed wedding they also have a white and cream blazers in a few different styles.
You can shop from well known designers here including Dolce & Gabbana, Alexander McQueen, and Gucci. Unfortunately all items on Far Fetch are categorized into their Men’s or Women’s range and then you can search by product or designer.
Price Range: $400-$10,000 – Shop Now
As well as a unisex range Asos also offer to offer a number of suits within their gendered lines, which if you don’t mind shopping within men’s or women’s sections could give you the option of some great suits at really affordable prices. Perfect if you are looking for an elopement outfit that you are planning to wear hiking, skiing, climbing, or on any other “trash the outfit” style shoot.
Price Range: $200-300 – Shop Now
Alternative gender neutral wedding outfits
Often when we think of androgynous formal wear we think of suits, blazers and trousers, but for many couples outfit’s can go much further than that. Maybe you want to reclaim dresses, wear vintage styles, or go for completely unique outfits that represent you and the energy you share with the world.
Whatever you decide it’s up to you to pick something that works for you, that you are going to look back on and love, and that is going to make you feel great on your special day.
If you are looking for inspiration, I absolutely love these couples take on wedding outfits for their bohemian vintage wedding.
Arahant Studio on Etsy
Taking example from this incredible couple celebrating their own experiences and passions on their wedding day I wanted to share this Etsy Seller. Arahant Studio have a range of uni-sex and gender non conforming pieces for couples looking for darker items to represent them on their wedding day.
Price Range: $250 – $500 – Shop Now
Queera Wang Inspired Looks
Non-Binary designer Curtis Cassell is redefining what wedding outfits can be, and what gender-fluid or A-gender clothing could look like. Curtis writes “I used to be a waiter at an event space that mostly did weddings. The Lgbtq staff would always talk about if they wanted to get married in a suit or in a dress. I couldn’t believe that the options were literally black and white and wanted to change that for myself and for our community.
All of the designs Curtis makes are bespoke, but I love the idea of piecing items together to create unique and gender non conforming wedding looks. Shop for blazers and match them with oversized skirts, or embellished shirts with more formal trousers to complete a look that’s completely you.
If you’re going to give it a try these sites might help you:
- The Tailory has a “lookbook” of dresses and blazers
- Etsy can be a great place to shop for unique pieces and designers. These Skirts for layering and different shirt options could be a place to start
- Although aimed at brides you might also find some helpful shops and designers on my blogs “Best places to buy your elopement dress” and “Best Bridal Jumpsuits”
Gender Neutral Wedding and Elopement Accessories
Whether you choose to get married in a dress or a suit, a jumpsuit, a combination of all of the above, or just in your regular hiking gear; accessories can bring an extra little magic to the day. They can be subtle ways of bringing your own identity to the clothes you wear, particularly great for couples that want to dress in a more traditional way, but still want to make the outfits their own.
There are a huge number of queer owned shops on Etsy, and it’s great to be able to support independent creators, what ever you are looking for someone is probably making it, or can personalize it for you. Here are a few of my favorites that I think would be great to add an extra touch to any elopement:
Price Range: $10-$50
Price Range: $10 – $20
Ties and Bowties
Price Range: $10-$30
If you are looking for more accessories to personalise your day, I’ve written another blog with more elopement details, whether you want to personalise camping mugs or find the perfect book for your vows, there are plenty of suggestions to help get you inspired.
It’s great to see that there are more and more a-gender and unisex ranges developing all the time, especially in the wedding industry. If you know of a great range or designer who I’ve not listed here, I’d love to hear from you and will be happy to add them on.
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